I used to looove commiserating with people. I used to thrive on being gossip-y, negative, cynical, judge-y, and making quick-witted sarcastic and snarky comments about the world and people and how there is no hope for humanity. I thought I was being funny.
Was I a happier and healthier person being that way? No. Was I succeeding professionally being that way? No.
Now I am ruthless about who I surround myself with. I look around now and the kind of people I focus on make me double my goals, don’t laugh or joke or make a face when I share my lofty goals, challenge me to be better, and lift me higher everyday. I have the best business partner who has shown me how to break mental ceilings and aim for things that scare me to my core, a CEO of the company who chose to bounce back from his previous venture/“failure” and gained #1 market share in one of the most competitive cities for real estate, and friends and colleagues who are positive and kind and not naysayers. I firmly believe you are a product of the 5 people you spend the most time with. I’ve learned to choose wisely but also take responsibility for how I must be influencing or affecting those who spend the most time with me. Am I a joy to be around? Do I lift them higher? Am I supportive? Am I kind? Am I helpful? Do I have integrity? I didn’t get a photo with everyone I’m grateful to be surrounded by, but here are a handful. ☺️ #compassholidayparty